A room with a decorative door

A relationship structure that cannot account for exit is not consensual in any serious political sense. It may be consensual in the narrow legalistic sense. It may satisfy the workshop definition. It may have agreements, check-ins, shared language, color-coded calendars, and a truly demonic number of acronyms. But if the least secure person cannot leave without losing shelter, community, and reputation, the structure is not free. It is a room with a decorative door.

Source: Your Polycule is Not a Revolution by Tara Knight